Belinda, a tall attractive 18 year old who could not control her tears, came to us because she was not attending college and would only go out with her Mum and Step-
During most days when her mum was out at work she would hide under her duvet.
It took three sessions before Belinda was able to be in the counselling room without her mum. She would colour pictures whilst talking to the counsellor but would often use baby-
As a little girl Belinda was her father’s favourite but when he left she felt discarded, replaced and unwanted. He now lives fifty miles away and has remarried twice starting two new families. Her older brother who has always been there for her had just left home to travel on his gap year. His leaving had unconsciously re-
Through talking with the counsellor Belinda could see that her duvet had become the only place where she felt secure. With the help of the counsellor she began to explore ways in which she could rebuild her own sense of security. Practically, she devised ways of venturing out with friends, having agreed pick-
After only 12 weeks of counselling she told the counsellor that she was ready to stop and that she would use what “she now understood to get on with her life”.
With just 12 weeks of counselling (costing just £540) Belinda gained the insight needed to restart college…with all that would mean for her future.
Reg is an elderly gentleman who has suffered from severe depression for many years. He has been on medication which has unpleasant side-
Counselling gives Reg an opportunity to talk about the difficulties he has in living life with depression. He told us that coming to counselling has given him the ability to recognise the difficult sides of himself and learn to live with them. Most importantly for Reg since he started counselling he has been able to halve (with his doctor’s consent) the amount of medication he is taken.
Reg describes counselling as his ‘life-
Reg contributes £5.00 to the cost of his counselling with the remaining £40.00 being met by our Bursary Fund
Molly, a 13 years old female, was referred to by the statutory Child and Adolescent Mental Health Service where she was originally sent by her GP. Her parents were informed by the school that Molly was self-
Molly is an only child who came to this country with her parents when she was 4. As well as self-
Once Molly realised that the counselling sessions were for her it was like a ‘go’ button inside of her had been pressed. She talked at great length about her Mum and Dad and the difference between their culture and her newly adopted one and how she cannot understand why her parents are so judgemental. As Molly shared her story the power of her experiences, her anger and other feelings filled the room. Furthermore, it was very clear how much she was carrying on her shoulders because she spoke non-
There have been many ‘light bulb’ moments for Molly as she has unburdened herself in a safe place where she can show her true feelings. She has recognised that she has presented a different image of herself to her parents and friends – and that this has been so unhelpful for her. As she has done this her confidence in her-
Molly has not self-
After just 7 weeks of counselling Molly is on an important journey of self-
Emily is a little girl who is struggling at school -
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Dennis came to us after being forced to take early retirement at 58 -
Stephen’s Nan rang us because she is very concerned about him because he keeps getting in trouble in school and flies off the handle at home. She says that he gets very angry with himself and has been hurting himself. He has been living with her since he was 8, he‘s now 14, because his Mum has problems of her own and Social Care placed him with her.
When Stephen first came he said he was very worried because his Nan hasn’t been well for a while and he was concerned for her health. She was in and out of hospital last year and his Aunt and her daughter, who he doesn’t get on with, came to stay to look after him and his younger sister. Social Care say that if anything should happen to his Nan, his Aunt would care for him and his sister. Stephen doesn’t think this is an ok idea, his sister is only 9, the same age as his cousin and he knows his Aunt will dump them on him. Stephen won’t speak to the social worker about this, as she is not to be trusted. They took him and his sister away from Mum after all. Talking to his Aunt is also very hard as she doesn’t see where he’s coming from. He feels really angry and it is hard for him to keep up in school or have time for friends. He is struggling to sleep and eat and when his head starts to throb all he can do to feel better is to cut himself. Stephen would really like to work as a mechanic, he is good with maths and science but is very worried that his ‘moods’ are going to stop him getting where he wants to go. He doesn’t want to fall into the same traps his father and mother did -
Issy is 44, in her second marriage, has 3 children and works in a school. Her relationships have always ended in violence and she came for counselling because she doesn’t know what she’s doing wrong. Surely all men can’t be like this -
Victor, who suffers from schizophrenia, has had a variety of therapeutic relationships over many years and was recommended to us for one-
Over the months that Victor has been seeing his counsellor he has been able to connect his past experiences to his present reactions and feelings, become more accepting of his illness and vulnerabilities and develop strategies to deal with difficult situations and feelings. Life continues to be a struggle for Victor but he has found a place of constancy with us which he recognises as vital for him.
Lotti, aged 14, was referred by the Educational Welfare officer because of non-